#AUSReadingMonth 2019 Clementine Ford
- Author: Clementine Ford
- Title: Boys Will Be Boys
- Published: 2018
- Genre: non-fiction
- Rating: A+++
- Trivia: 2019 Australian Book Industry Awards shortlist
- Trivia: 2019 Australian Indie Book Awards longlist
- List of Challenges 2019
- Monthly plan
- #AWW2019 @AusWomenWriters
- #AUSReadingMonth @BronasBooks
- I read Sue’s excellent post @ Whispering Gums
- about a disussion that took place during the
- Sydney Writers Festival 2019.
- Boys to Men: The masculinity crisis
- Panel: Clementine Ford, Adam Liaw, Janice Petersen (Convenor).
- I knew I had to read Ford’s book.
- Please take the time to read Sue’s summation of the
- panel discussion....it will enrich your reading of
- Boys Will Be Boys as only the author herself can do!
Ms Ford highlights what is meant as…..
- Fog of toxic masculinity
- ….no inside voice,
- preferring to roar wherever they go
- …boisterous, barrelling through the world
- …with an admiral lack of restraint.
- They (men) have each other’s back
- …close ranks against anyone else who threatens them.
- Boys are currently conditioned to be
- …entitled, domineering, sexist, privileged.
- Boys Will Be Boys
- Ms Ford uses this common sentiment that is bandied about
- without thought and expose just how damaging it is for everyone
- ….including boys.
- Gender INEQUALITY is first learned at home
- Filtered down through pop culture
- A launching pad into even more damaging practices later.
Ch 1 – It’s a Boy –> gender stereotyping
- People frequently assign sex based on
- arbitrary indicators (color of clothes (pink/blue),
- messages on t-shirts (“brave & strong” –“happy & peace”),
- toys (dolls vs active toys, trucks, cars etc).
Ch 2 – A Woman’s Place –> domestic dynamics
- Ponder this:
- “…women who choose to live romantically with men are acting against
- their own economic interest.”
- Ch 3 – Girls on Film –> female roles in films
- Ch 4 – Not All Men –> “..stop making me (men) feel bad.”
- Ch 5 – We Know What Boys Are Like –> teach men healthy intimacy
- Ch 6 – Mass Debate –> Alt-right phenomenon Milos Yiannopoulos
- Ch 7 – The Manosphere –> most bone-chilling chapter
- Ch 8 – Your Honor, I Object –> the heart of the MRA agenda (Men’s Rights Activists)
- Ch 9 – The King of the Hill –> power and privileged white men
- Ch 10 – It’s Just a Joke –> Why do comics make rape a side-splitting topic?
- Ch 11 – Asking For It –> Jane Doe vs players Ulster rugby team… but she consented!
- Ch 12 – Witch Hunt –> #MeToo…list of shame!
- Epilogue – ….a letter to her toddler son….it is a thing of beauty and love to read!
- This book may seem like small comfort
- finally confronting the problem of toxic masculinity
- that we see playing out in the
- workplace, home, schools, governments.
- But in a time like this, when it’s hard to understand how
- our culture became so “toxic” with
- male dominance, power, privilege, misogyny
- …reading is probably the best possible option to try to
- think about how society has gotten where we are now
- …and how we can and should change it.
- The book left me drained
- ….so much to process.
- I’ve tried to read more poetry this year
- …and once in a while a ‘flash’ of recognition
- goes off in my mind.
- NSW Literary Award 2019 for poetry was won by
- Kate Lilley, daughter of the famous poet, feminist Dorothy Hewett.
- Her book of poems TILT (autobiographical and
- some confessional poems) will touch your heart.
- Unknown to me was Kate Lilley’s back round and her immersion
- in the Bohemian life of her parents in 1970s.
- She was abused by friends of parents
- ….male entitled predators.
- Lilley has suffered for years trying to put her life together
- after living with a mother whose motto was:
- …guess what?
- ”Boys Will Be Boys”.
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